What You Say Doesn't Matter; It's What You Believe
How many times have you thought, or even said, what did I do to deserve this?
Or maybe, I DON'T deserve this!
If either of those thoughts have crossed your mind, or if they have come out of your mouth, have you ever put your finger on what you believe you deserve?
No one deserves to be humiliated, abused, taken advantage of, hurt, or have their car stolen. But do you think you truly deserve to feel good and take care of yourself?
It seems like a simple question, but many of us struggle with the idea that we deserve to feel calm and have time to ourselves.
I recently worked with a client who told me she didn’t believe she deserved to be healthy, even though that was exactly why she came to me for coaching. She wanted to be active, spend time with friends, and feel confident and worthy.
While she knew she didn’t deserve to feel terrible and terrified, she accepted it as an inevitable part of her life. Unfortunately, she's not the only woman I coach who feels this way.
...many women don’t feel that they deserve long stretches of time to themselves, the way men do. They feel they have to earn it. And the only way to do that is to get to the end of a To-do list that never ends: the chores of the day... (Brigid Schulte, The Guardian)
Women, in particular, are conditioned to put others first, often neglecting their own mental, physical, and emotional well-being. In addition to the daily to-do list, women are also naturally more empathetic and compassionate so they often feel guilty and selfish when they prioritize their own needs, which can lead to overwhelm, burnout, resentment, and low self-worth.
The Quick Fix Trap
Instead of taking time to really take care of themselves through rest, exercise, spending time with friends, or doing something they enjoy, many women resort to unhealthy coping mechanisms.
Quick fixes like grabbing a cookie when you're feeling down, hitting the mall for a shopping spree, or unwinding with a glass (or two) of wine might seem harmless, but they're actually sabotaging your self-care. These temporary solutions can leave you feeling worse in the long run, draining your energy and confidence.
To truly prioritize self-care, you have to believe that you deserve it.
Just like saying affirmations you don't believe don't work, prioritizing yourself won't happen if you don't believe you deserve you deserve to take care of yourself. Believing you are valuable, whether you've crossed off everything on your list or not, empowers you to make choices that support your physical and mental health, such as setting boundaries, managing stress, and practicing mindfulness.
You've been earning your rest and worth by doing.
It's time to practice believing you deserve to rest and care for yourself because you're YOU!
Prioritizing self-care can lead to significant improvements in all areas of your life, and it allows you to have the energy and emotional bandwidth to help the people you love and care about without sacrificing yourself.
Some of the benefits of prioritizing self-care include:
Increased confidence and self-esteem
Greater resilience
Improved relationships at home and work
Reduced stress, anxiety, and overwhelm
Enhanced productivity and success
Increased joy and fulfillment
Are you ready to take the next step and prioritize yourself? Working with a life coach can help you believe in yourself and your worth. Imagine having the energy, time, and confidence to take care of yourself as much as you take care of everyone else.
Working With a Life Coach Can Help
A life coach can provide personalized guidance and support to help you challenge and change limiting beliefs and develop healthy habits. By working with a coach, you can:
Create personalized strategies for managing stress and anxiety
Have accountability and support as you build healthy self-care habits
Work through limiting beliefs and foster resilience, confidence, and self-worth
Learn effective time management and boundary-setting
Celebrate your successes and take the next step forward
I'm curious. Do you truly believe you deserve to feel good?
What are you willing to change to make it a reality?
Who else benefits when you finally take the time to take care of yourself?
If you’re ready to dig a little deeper into these questions, schedule a free consultation call to talk with me about how I can help you.
You deserve to feel amazing.
Believe it.
<3 Megan
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